Always Brokenhearted
When you would rather be with someone—anyone—than with yourself.
Psychology Today
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I'm newly divorced although separated for over a year. I started dating right after my husband moved out and find myself getting serious with a long-distance boyfriend of five months. We see each other one weekend a month. I recently realized that I have always had a boyfriend, often finding a potential new one before ending the previous relationship. I either get involved with men I know are not good for me—my ex was verbally abusive—or I find myself sabotaging a healthy relationship so that my partner ends up leaving me. Either way, I always end up with a broken heart and don't want to go through this all again. I'm falling in love with my new boyfriend and am panicked that I'll do something to cause the relationship to end.
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How lucky you are to have an endless string of boyfriends, but hitching up with abusive men who hurt you suggests that you would rather be with someone—anyone—than with yourself. And while you are not responsible for their abuse, you may be paving the way for it through desperation and dependence. That you actively push away men who are not abusive suggests you have an underlying set of beliefs about a) yourself and b) the way men are supposed to behave in relationships, and that you are not aware these beliefs are guiding your experiences.
Abuse thrives where a power imbalance exits. You may create a power imbalance by being so willing to be with a guy that your neediness becomes palpable and you essentially hand over responsibility for your own happiness to your partner. While a woman's dependence may at first make some clods feel more manly, it eventually becomes burdensome (it will take longer for the burden to be felt in a long-distance relationship). Here's the catch: most guys come to resent the burden. That doesn't justify abuse, but it lowers the barrier when someone is angry or frustrated. In the long run, the only relationships that work well are those in which partners feel they carry roughly equal shares of...
Растенията у дома не само създават красота и уют. Те са и полезни за здравето - както за психиката, така и за физиологията.
Прекомерното количество калории съвсем не са единствената причина за нарастване на теглото.
Казвали ли сте си “От утре ставам нов човек!”... , но после нещо не се е получавало...
